Isn’t it time to get rid of the chip on your shoulder?

Spiritual Healing
Spiritual Healing

Isn’t it time to get rid of the chip on your shoulder? How long has the chip on your shoulder caused problems in relationships and in life?

In active addiction, we all had more than just a chip on our shoulders. We carried the heaviest bags of self loathing and depression or other dual diagnosis skeletons into the doors of recovery. All of our unsolved hurts, imagined slights and resentments that were buried deeply within ourselves. We reflected, deflected and buried the pain deeper. Left there own their own, they festered and infected our lives as we turned to substances to numb the pain, or hide the pain deeper. Some of us did this for many, many years.

Entering into recovery we learned to open our baggage and examine its weight and contents, with a trusted person present. Opening that baggage was perhaps one of the scariest things we have accomplished. Even now the baggage often must be checked. We learned to do a fourth step inventory and the seventh step released this chip, this defect of character. Whether we released this chip through a twelve step program, or counseling matters not. The important thing was we finally forgave ourselves, we forgave that little girl in us who was never at fault. We finally started unpacking

Now established in recovery and a bit more seasoned we have learned that this baggage contained, resentments and negativity that we could ill afford. Carrying the chip meant risking our recovery, we learned to work through the baggage and to heal while accepting our responsibility in the past for only our part. I believe removing that chip from the shoulder was one of the hardest things, I have done. I will continue to do, while learning to love myself.

The best part of a chip on a shoulder is when we realize how heavy it is, and are able to leave chip and baggage at the wayside. Talk about a spiritual awakening, what follows is a miracle. The chip is now replaced with a new found freedom, that is so much lighter and happier. We have learned there is no place for negativity in our recovery. Surrounding ourselves with others that are positive, encouraging and challenging is the simplest of solutions to keep that chip off the shoulder. Learning to love and forgive ourselves this was a longer, and is a continuous procedure. After all we don’t want that chip coming back.

Hope in Recovery

Patricia Hole is a 62-year-old survivor of addiction, childhood mental and physical abuse, rape, chronic health conditions. She shares her journey of becoming a winner through tragedies suffered by sharing her inspiration of how to recover from those situations. Her journey focuses on the Love, Light & Laughter found along her journey. She founded the Facebook page @ . Patricia believes," that we can recover, we do recover and we will recovery by the Grace of God." Patricia is currently writing her story, the story behind "Hope in Recovery through love light, and laughter. It's scheduled to be done in December of 2016.

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