A true real relationship is when you can tell each other anything and everything. It’s so much more than being “friends”. Have you ever had that special friend that was like a soul mate? A friend whose friendship held no secrets and no lies. A friendship where you had the freedom to be who you are, you are friends of the soul first and foremost. A true relationship that in which you are not judged by what you say or do, where you have been or not, what you did or didn’t do. That special feeling of freedom to be, who you are is the best gift of a relationship. But it’s built upon the trust that you are who you portray to be. (No eye rolling, we have all faked it before). Yet having a true relationship eludes many of us. As we begin our journey in reclaiming parts of ourselves that have been fractured and need repair here are three easy steps to take to take to have a true relationship.
- Be yourself, be genuine, real, and walking your talk. You have to be yourself in order to have a true relationship. Who you present to be, is who you will attract into your life.
- Be honest. No matter what do not lie to the other person. Lies breed distrust, besides how many times have you forgot what lie you told and gotten hemmed up? We are seeking to improve ourselves, no lies, be known for telling the truth.
- Do as you say. The person that keeps their word, and their commitments. Being responsible, being that role model. Myself, I watch people all the time, what they say I give little credence to unless their actions match their words. People do watch and when I watch I find rose colored glasses that stop me from making negative assumptions. I try and be as non-judgemental as I can be.
Sounds way to simple. I guess it’s that need we all have to be loved. We want to feel loved by another, whether it be wrapped up in their arms, or in a text message, or a phone call, just that other presence. We want to share our lives, and after all is said and done it takes a lot of work to have a true relationship like this. It has taken me 55 years to even learn about this, I am blessed by a relationship with my husband my soul mate of 29 years of marriage, and 32 years of being together. Yes, it takes a lot of work but there is no better gift than the gift of true friendship in a relationship. He has seen me at my worst and at my best.