The Hotline provides the following
services, via phone or online chat, with
access to 200+ different languages:
• Referrals to local/state resources
• Personalized safety planning
• Crisis intervention
• Information requests
• Domestic violence education
Abuse is a repetitive pattern of behaviors to maintain power and control over an intimate partner. These are behaviors that physically harm, arouse fear, prevent a partner from doing what they wish or force them to behave in ways they do not want. Abuse includes the use of physical and sexual violence, threats and intimidation, emotional abuse and economic deprivation. Many of these different forms of abuse can be going on at any one time.
Watch out for these red flags and if you’re experiencing one or more of them in your relationship, call or chat online with an advocate to talk about what’s going on.
Telling you that you can never do anything right.
Showing jealousy of your friends and time spent away.
Keeping you or discouraging you from seeing friends or family members.
Embarrassing or shaming you with put-downs.
Controlling every penny spent in the household.
Taking your money or refusing to give you money for expenses.
Looking at you or acting in ways that scare you.
Controlling who you see, where you go, or what you do.
Preventing you from making your own decisions.
Telling you that you are a bad parent or threatening to harm or take away your children.
Preventing you from working or attending school.
Destroying your property or threatening to hurt or kill your pets.
Intimidating you with guns, knives or other weapons.
Pressuring you to have sex when you don’t want to or do things sexually you’re not comfortable with.
Pressuring you to use drugs or alcohol.
18 years and older in the United States 1 in 4 women, or 1 in 7 men have been the victim of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime.*
Domestic violence can happen to anyone regardless of race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. If you or someone you
know is in an abusive relationship,or if you have questions about
abuse, they can help.
National Domestic Violence Hotline.