Isn’t it time to get rid of the chip on your shoulder? How long has the chip on your shoulder caused problems in relationships and in life?
In active addiction, we all had more than just a chip on our shoulders. We carried the heaviest bags of self loathing and depression or other dual diagnosis skeletons into the doors of recovery. All of our unsolved hurts, imagined slights and resentments that were buried deeply within ourselves. We reflected, deflected and buried the pain deeper. Left there own their own, they festered and infected our lives as we turned to substances to numb the pain, or hide the pain deeper. Some of us did this for many, many years.
Entering into recovery we learned to open our baggage and examine its weight and contents, with a trusted person present. Opening that baggage was perhaps one of the scariest things we have accomplished. Even now the baggage often must be checked. We learned to do a fourth step inventory and the seventh step released this chip, this defect of character. Whether we released this chip through a twelve step program, or counseling matters not. The important thing was we finally forgave ourselves, we forgave that little girl in us who was never at fault. We finally started unpacking
Now established in recovery and a bit more seasoned we have learned that this baggage contained, resentments and negativity that we could ill afford. Carrying the chip meant risking our recovery, we learned to work through the baggage and to heal while accepting our responsibility in the past for only our part. I believe removing that chip from the shoulder was one of the hardest things, I have done. I will continue to do, while learning to love myself.
The best part of a chip on a shoulder is when we realize how heavy it is, and are able to leave chip and baggage at the wayside. Talk about a spiritual awakening, what follows is a miracle. The chip is now replaced with a new found freedom, that is so much lighter and happier. We have learned there is no place for negativity in our recovery. Surrounding ourselves with others that are positive, encouraging and challenging is the simplest of solutions to keep that chip off the shoulder. Learning to love and forgive ourselves this was a longer, and is a continuous procedure. After all we don’t want that chip coming back.